Moms Love Company
By Julie Davidson
We’ve all heard the saying, “Misery loves company.” There’s probably a lot of truth to that, but the word misery just sounds so—miserable. But can you consider a new twist to an old cliché? Like Moms love company.
We tend to be so focused on our own kids. We zero in on their words, their grades, their behaviors. I recall being so upset when in K5 my son got in trouble for yelling in class. There was a note in his backpack that said, “I yelled ‘butt’ in class.” After chastising him for 10 minutes, he asked me if I had seen the other side of the note. It read, “I yelled ‘penis’ in class.” My first thought was to write back to his teacher and say, “Don’t send any more notes home until he says ‘vagina.’” I didn’t think that would foster a very good relationship with his teacher.
But when I first saw the note, I was mortified. I kept thinking, Why would he say these things? I never go around saying penis. What have I done wrong? And then he told me there were other kids who were saying the same things. They would all say the words and then giggle. I was so happy when he told me that. I almost didn’t care what words he said.
Of course our kids aren’t the only ones doing the things they do. But when their behavior is on the negative side, we may feel that way. It may come down to the fact that we do love company. There is a certain amount of comfort in knowing it’s not just us. Like realizing other moms are struggling to lose weight. Or finding out other women are trying to balance work, kids, and marriage.
So keep in mind that all of us have something going on when it comes to our children. Likely a lot of somethings. So if your kid says a naughty word in class, just know there are a million other moms going through something similar. Yep, millions of kids yelling “butt” in class every day. You’re in good company.