If You Can’t Say Something Nice…
by Julie Davidson
How many times have we told our children to watch their tone? You know: Don’t be a hot head and don’t lose your cool.
I’m not proud to admit that I got my mouth rinsed out with soap for not talking nicely as a kid. Dove was my personal favorite because some of the others were a bit spicy. But I learned my lesson, and I try to teach the same to my kids. Only no soap in the mouth for them: Pump soap makes too many bubbles and that would actually be fun.
The other day, I apparently needed a reminder for myself. I went to pick up the boys at their after-school program. One of the workers informed me that they had a new system for discipline issues. I didn’t like what I was told and lost it. I did. I became that mom. I was talking loud, shaking my head, raising my voice. Hands waving in the air.
That same night, I got a FB message from another mom. She heard I caused a bit of a stir at the school. But she assured me that I was her kid’s hero. Seems they didn’t like the rules either. One of them even asked his mom if she thought I gave the workers the middle finger. Oh man. I really messed up this time.
I felt horrible. The next day, I went to both staff members and apologized. I explained that I knew they always had my kid’s safety and health first and that they were not trying to hurt or upset my kids. Most of all I explained that I acted totally out of line and I likely hurt their feelings and ruined their night. One woman looked at me as of she were going to cry and said, “Thank you. You don’t know how much that means to me.” Before I left she approached me again and repeated how much she appreciated the apology.
The other woman said I didn’t need to apologize. I told her I did, and that if I can be so rude then I can apologize.
Humble pie isn’t tasty, but we could use a bite now and then. It sure beats a bar of soap.