How Much Does This Gig Pay?
by Julie Davidson
Do you ever have those moments as a mom when you think, How did I get here? Why am I doing this? I’m not even getting paid!
Maybe it was just after you gave birth and you were tired, confused, and a bit hormonal. Or the first day you had to take your child to daycare. Perhaps it was after your worst day at work and you got home and realized you still had to make dinner, do laundry, and go shopping. It just feels like it’s too much. And if you complain, you run the risk of people telling you that is part of it. You signed up for it. Yes. You. Did. But as I say, you forgot to read the fine print.
Here is what that fine print said.
“You will nurture like you never nurtured before. You will be on call 24/7 to soothe every upset stomach, nightmare, and heart ache. It does not matter that you are already an emotional wreck.
“You will provide three square meals each day, making every effort to include all the food groups. It does not matter that you do not enjoy it, really know how to cook, or have time to do it.
“You will make certain that clothing is cleaned on a regular basis. It does not matter that you are not running a laundromat.
You will oversee the upkeep and cleaning of your home. It does not matter that you have nothing to do with its daily disorder.”
One day I discovered out that the website Investopedia broke down the various roles of being a homemaker and added it all up. They calculated the total amount of money that could be made in the open market for the areas of chef, house cleaner, child care, driver, lawn care, and lawn maintenance. The amount was $96,262!
That’s a lot of money. Who knew? And if you’ve been a mom for a few years, consider the back pay!
Earlier when I was in the kitchen cleaning, I came across a note that my son Miles had written me. It was in purple, which he knows is my favorite color. It read “I Love you mom. XOXO.”
It’s never been about financial compensation. A fridge full of handwritten notes is payment enough.