Let Me Ask You This
by Mommy MD Guides blogger Julie Davidson
Did you ever think you would have to answer so many questions as a parent? Sure, I realized I would have to respond to a seemingly never ending barrage of questions, but I never thought about the fact that I wouldn’t know what the answers should be.
When your children are toddlers, you can tell then pretty much anything, because they don’t know a whole lot. But as they get older those questions become more complex. And you have to be on top of your game.
Money is always fodder for questions. As soon as they realize money is a means to many ends, they’ve got questions. For the last couple years my kids want to know how much money my husband and I make. And for the last couple years I have told them, “Not enough.”
And since they don’t know how much we make they don’t understand what we can and cannot afford. Countless trips to the store have included someone asking, “Can we buy this?” To which I explain we don’t have money for that. I’m pretty sure that they believe that because we have an account at the bank that we can get as much money as we want. I wish.
And they use your words of wisdom in their questions. I try to get the kids to eat vegetables, explaining that they are good for them. The problem with that is the fact that they don’t witness me eating a lot of vegetables. Yep. Another question. “How come you don’t eat vegetables if they’re so good for us?”
It’s important that our kids have good self-confidence and they embrace they way they’re made. You realize that isn’t working when you hear, “Well how come you don’t wear your hair they way it’s supposed to be? Why do you put color in it?”
Sometimes your mind just can’t keep up with the questions and responding with an answer that makes sense it out of reach. This is why it’s a good idea to have a standard answer. “That’s the way it is.” is a great response to most questions. The only problem is it’s usually met with another question: “Why?”