Lauren Feder, MD
Dr. Feder is a mom of two sons and a nationally recognized physician who specializes in homeopathic medicine. Affiliated with the National Center for Homeopathy, Holistic Pediatric Association, and La Leche League, Dr. Feder is a frequent lecturer for parents and professionals and has been seen nationally on various health-oriented television programs and heard on radio stations throughout the United States. She is the author of several books, including Natural Baby and Childcare, and The Parents’ Concise Guide to Childhood Vaccinations.
How many children do you have? Two sons, 18 and 14
What’s your specialty? I’m a general practitioner and board certified in homeopathic medicine.
What’s the best parenting advice you’ve ever received? It’s from the philosophers before us: One of the greatest gifts that we can give our children is to create moments of wonder, creativity, and awe. Do something that is out of pattern to create those special moments that form memories your children will carry for the rest of their lives.
What’s your own favorite parenting tip? I try to treat my children with respect, however I want to be respected as well. I see a lot of parents who endure much heartache because they are not treated nicely by their children if they are too lenient. I feel it’s important that our children have boundaries. “No means no,” and “Yes, means yes.” Choose your battles wisely, and stay firm when you make your decision.
What do you wish you knew earlier about parenting? Before children, it was easy to envision parenting as an idyllic experience, however I’ve come to realize that being a parent can be challenging however, richly fulfilling at the same time. Our children can be wonderful teachers. My kids have taught me about patience, and they have taken to my limits and beyond. They also teach us to live day to day because that’s the way they live.
How do you get your kids to eat healthy food? My husband is the chef in the family, and he always tries to make food fresh and look appealing. As role models for our children, we eat a healthy balanced diet at home, including the lunch I take to work. In other words we eat what they eat! Because we eat healthier than most of my children’s friend’s families, I allow them “goodies” when we eat out, so they don’t feel too deprived.
How do you work exercise into your family’s life? When my kids were younger, it was lovely to take them for a walk either in the sling or in the stroller. When they got older, it was family bike rides. The whole family has been enjoying a Pilates machine that we keep in the TV room. Before children, I was a yoga devotee. However, since having children and working more hours, it is more difficult to fit in the extended class, which I miss.
How to do you recharge your batteries? My spiritual life is central, and needs to be nourished as well. Nearly every morning before work, I take a walk and do the rosary, which is a form of meditation and prayer. It’s a way for me to welcome the day.