I make considerably more money than my husband, so he’s considering staying home with our baby while I go back to work? Did you try that?
Our Mommy MD Guide’s reply: Our Mommy MD Guide’s reply. Yes, and it worked out well. As an intern and resident, worked 100-hour weeks, and my husband was the work-from-home dad. As Max grew he was also the hockey dad, referee, driver of kids, band dad, the snack dad, you name it. He was so involved that when I was able to attend an event, the other moms looked at me and asked “Who are you?”
I missed a lot of things those early years, but my husband was always there. And to us that was what was most important: That one of us was there.
Even though I missed many practices and games, my son and I had our own very special bond, forged from our own special traditions. Each week on payday, I’d come home from work and say, “Max, let’s sneak out and do something!” It might have been just taking a walk, treating him to a meal or sweet, or taking a trip to the craft store, I took off each year on Martin Luther King’s Birthday, and Max and I would have our special day. We did whatever he wanted. Some years we went to amusement parks; other years we went to the movies. It might have only been one day a year, but that date with mom meant a world to both of us.
As Max got older, I began working in my private practice, and I had much more free time, so I got to attend many more events. Today Max is in college, and we have the most amazing relationship. We’re extremely close, and he’s a great kid.
—JJ Levenstein, MD, FAAP, a mom of one son in college, a pediatrician in private practice in Southern California who serves on the clinical staff at three hospitals, and co-creator of Baby Silk, the first personal care line for babies developed by pediatrician-moms