I’m in my second trimester, and people keep telling me their scary birth stories. How did you tune them out?
Our Mommy MD Guide’s reply: I remember just before my second baby was born, I was out to dinner, and a woman started to tell me in graphic detail about her horrific pregnancy! I turned to her and said, “I cannot listen to these stories anymore.”
Sometimes people feel the need to say all sorts of things. It might be they feel anxiety, or they might feel the need to relive an experience that was difficult for them. They forget that you are in a transition, and you don’t want your mind to be filled with horror stories.
I think that all you have to do is gently explain that you don’t wish to hear any more. You’re preparing for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby, and you want to focus on that.
–Nancy Rappaport, MD, a mother of two teenaged daughters and a teenaged son, an assistant professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, an attending child and adolescent psychiatrist in the Cambridge, MA, public schools, and the author of In Her Wake: A Child Psychiatrist Explores the Mystery of Her Mother’s Suicide