Choosing a Center
My husband and I are considering a surrogate to have our baby. How did you choose a surrogacy center?
Our Mommy MD Guide’s reply: Surrogacy is a long process, and we’re on that journey now. On average, it takes around 15 months to get pregnant.
Pursuing surrogacy can be very stressful, and I recommend working with a surrogacy center. My husband and I work with the Center for Surrogate Parenting (CSP). It’s one of the oldest and most experienced surrogacy centers in the country. We chose them because they are also very experienced working with couples with difficult issues, such as medical complications. Despite facing these challenges, CSP has helped many families to find surrogates.
Another benefit to working with a center like CSP is that they connect you with a psychologist and coordinator to help you find your surrogate. They take a great deal of time and care in matching couples with surrogates. Topics discussed include: characteristics wanted in the surrogate, abortion and selective reduction, amount of contact with surrogate, legal aspects and financial considerations and how to tell your child about his/her unique beginnings. It’s important for intended parents to be on the same page as their surrogate. For example, if a mom-to-be wanted to talk to her surrogate every day, but the surrogate only wanted to talk once a month, that would be a problem.
Also I find it important that the center knows all of the laws surrounding surrogacy, which can be complicated. The center’s expertise has really helped us.
—Jennifer Arnold, MD, MSc, FAAP, an assistant professor of pediatrics in the Division of Neonatal-Perinatal Medicine, an attending neonatologist, and the medical director of the Pediatric Simulation Center, at Texas Children’s Hospital and the Baylor College of Medicine, in Houston, TX