My husband and I have been undergoing fertility treatments, with no success. A friend suggested surrogacy. Have you thought about that?
Our Mommy MD Guide’s reply: My husband and I started trying to have a baby soon after we got married. We want to have children, but we know that given our skeletal dysplasia that there were some extra circumstances we needed to consider. For one, I’m only 3 feet, 2 inches tall, so we didn’t know if it would be safe for me to carry a pregnancy. We met with a geneticist and an ob who has experience with skeletal dysplasia and pregnancy, and she said that I could conceive and carry a pregnancy, but it would be very high risk—to me and also to the baby. We knew that the baby would be born prematurely, and although many premature babies do very well with neonatal intensive care, it is still a risk. Also, because of my size, I have a very difficult airway, and so I would have needed to have a C-section under general anesthesia, which comes with still more risks.
After my husband and I considered all of these factors, we decided that it would make more sense to use a surrogate. My husband and I have started down that path, and we are both very excited!
—Jennifer Arnold, MD, MSc, FAAP, an assistant professor of pediatrics in the Division of Neonatal-Perinatal Medicine, an attending neonatologist, and the medical director of the Pediatric Simulation Center, at Texas Children’s Hospital and the Baylor College of Medicine, in Houston, TX