I have two preteenagers. I thought parenting would get easier as they get older. But it hasn’t. What do you find to be the biggest challenge?
Our Mommy MD Guide’s reply: I think that the challenges change as the kids’ age changes. You’d think that your life would get easier as they get older, but actually the challenges become more sophisticated. As kids grow, parents need to become more creative.
One challenge we had is that our kids keep score. They’re close in age, each about 20 months apart. From the time they were very young, they’ve kept track of what we did for each of them. When they were little, it was things like who picked the TV show we watched, who picked the restaurant we went to. Now that they’re older, it’s who got new boots or a new coat. Our daughters were upset that their brother could drive with a passenger at an earlier age than they could.
My husband and I try to treat them very equally and to be fair. And when we can’t, we try to give a logical reason why. It’s made for a lot of controversy!
—Susan Sherman, MD, a mom of three and a Maternal-Fetal Medicine Specialist at Henry Ford Health System in Detroit